10 Things to Know

Ten Things Grieving Children Want You To Know

1. Children want to be told the truth about the death

  • Tell them in age-appropriate and direct language
  • Ask them if they have any questions and clear up misconceptions

2. Children look to you as a role model for how people grieve

  • Share your feelings with them as long as they are relieved of the task of having to “fix it”
  • Each child will grieve in their own unique way
  • They will grieve alone in an effort to shield you from their pain

3. Children want to talk about their person who died

  • They need you to tolerate listening when they tell their story or share their feelings
  • They fear that they will forget their loved one

4. Children express their emotions through play and behaviors which may be problematic for you

  • They can’t always tolerate intense emotions or know how to talk about them
  • They might make decisions you don’t agree with
  • They need to take breaks from their grief and engage in age-appropriate activities.

 

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5. Children need to know who would take care of them if you could not

  • They may fear for your safety especially when you are apart

6. Children benefit from being included in mourning rituals

  • Your child needs the opportunity to participate in ongoing rituals
  • Rituals aid in their understanding of death

7. They need you to help them feel safe

  • Provide clear and consistent boundaries, limits and expectations
  • Give them room to safely interact with peers and adults outside of the family

8. They need to be taught coping strategies

  • Include ways to comfort themselves in your absence

9. Children need to be included when making decisions:

  • About how to celebrate holidays, birthdays and anniversaries
  • About other family circumstances such moving or changing schools.

10. Children need you to take care of yourself: they will only adapt as well as you do.

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