What Teens Can Say to Help a Grieving Friend
Instead of saying this…
- “I’m sorry for your loss”
- “Don’t feel sad, it’ll get better”
- “Why haven’t you been at school?”
- “Don’t think about the death”
- “I know just how you feel, my dog died last year”
- “Why aren’t you talking about it?”
- “It must have been God’s plan, he’s in a better place”
- “It’s been 6 months; shouldn’t you be over it by now?”
Try saying this…
- “I’m sorry to hear your mom/dad died”
- “I’m not sure what to say but I want you to know that I care”
- “We have all missed you at school”
- “Are you thinking about or missing your mom/dad?”
- “I can’t imagine what it feels like to have a parent die”
- “I’m always here for you if you want to talk or not talk”
- “Do you wonder where your mom/dad is now?”
- “What are things you do that help you when you feel sad?”
Please remember: Even though your friend may appear sad, they really need to stay connected to you and do the fun things you enjoyed together before the death. So, include them in group activities, parties and kickbacks.
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